The Internet was recently transfixed with the dramatics of 2 YouTubers going through a very public online break-up.

Now, this is not to disparage the aforementioned couple's trials, but sometimes the scars left by a relationship amount to more than just Twitter mentions for a few weeks.

Take Nyon Mwei, for instance, who came out of her relationship recently.

On Feb. 4, she posted a heartbreaking post-mortem on Facebook about her relationship with her ex, Thomas Chua. The lengthy post was shared and had hundreds of comments chastising the man.

Love hurts

She started off her Facebook post with this rather succinct summary of her trials.

Do not use my love for you to hurt me;

The key point to take note in this confession seems to be the increasing isolation that her ex had put her through while in the relationship.

The post primarily hangs on 3 issues. The obsession for privacy, the pathological need to assign blame, and the issue of trust.

The obsession for privacy

The issue of privacy came to play early on in her post when she highlighted the inability to share her thoughts on social media.

Throughout this relationship never once did we have an argument I would publicized it on Facebook, because even just a status stating I'm unhappy would anger the shit out of you.

That veneer of privacy was used once again to justify the silence, not only on social media, but to her family as well.

Neither am I allowed to confide in my best friend or my mother. Because you wish to retain the "good impression" to outsiders. And being the weak me, I would always succumb to your commands bottling up all the negativity.

He doesn't seem to have taken his own advice though, with this comment on social media seemingly insinuating that she was one of his "used toys"

Assigning blame

Another hallmark of their relationship appeared to be the need to assign blame.

Nyon Mwei revealed that she had an abortion during the relationship, her reasons for having the abortion were as such.

Even making this decision, my first consideration was you.

I didn't want you to slog yourself with work trying to keep our baby plus you have a kid yourself.

I didn't want us to slum into a marriage disaster because we're not financially ready and the foundation of our relationship wasn't strong.

But Chua's response was allegedly this.

How heartbroken was I when you blamed me for causing you to be in a debt because of the abortion fees just few days after the surgery when I'm still recuperating, screaming to my face "You gian song time, never think of consequences, so now I must bear all responsibility???"

And that blame mentality resurfaced again and again during their relationship.

I was all out loyal towards you and draining myself in the process of loving you, but were you completely honest and faithful to me? You always felt I'm the most rotten woman, I'm the root of all your problems.

Which leads us to the 3rd point, trust.

Trust

The lack of trust shown by Chua was evident throughout the post, in the restrictions he placed upon her.

Whether it be from male colleagues.

My entire social circle was cut off, any person who "loves" my post/photo would be immediately blocked. Any male sending a text be it work related or casually asking how am I would led into a interrogation session and scolding even when I'm not replying to them.

Or female friends.

I couldn't even have coffee time with my best girlfriend of 15 years near my block, because then it seems like I'm abandoning you at home alone having fun outside and that she will brainwash me.

But perhaps the more devastating aspect of trust highlighted in the post was the excessive trust shown by Nyon Mwei.

When you were chased out from your home by your family, we took you in without any hesitation. Even when your own sister-in-law chided you for always bringing random girls back causing the place to not feel like a home, I stood by you.

A part in me believe you will change into a better person, despite the red lights signaling a wrong move, we tried our best to shower you with love thinking you probably lack of family warmth as a result your character is moulded that way.

And it was that trust in both the person, and the person's ability to change that lead to some decisions made on the foundations of that misplaced trust.

Or as Nyon Mwei put it in that heartbreaking last line.

I'm really sorry my little baby, mama failed to bring you into a happy family.

Top image: Facebook

If you like what you read, follow us on Facebook and Twitter to get the latest updates.