Woman shames person online for not giving up MRT reserved seat, gets backlash instead

Don't seat-shame please.

Mandy How | October 23, 2017, 06:01 PM

Taking videos or photos from the scene of a dispute and putting it online is fast becoming a national pastime.

One of the latest of these incidents involves a woman, who we understand to be pregnant, shaming another passenger for not giving up a priority seat on the train to her.

A video uploaded to a Facebook page, purportedly filmed by the lady, carries audio of her ranting while recording video of the passenger, who is shown sitting opposite her and next to his girlfriend.

The incident, according to an eyewitness who spoke to Mothership, occurred on Saturday (Oct. 21), around 6pm, between two stations on the Circle Line.

Watch the video here:

The lady who was recording the video can be heard saying, "Pity this lady over here... look at the boyfriend, such a stupid boyfriend".

However, according to the eyewitness, who left a comment on the video, the woman was already occupying a reserved seat opposite the male passenger by the time she started filming the clip:

Speaking to Mothership.sg, the same eyewitness said the man carrying the child, who is partially visible in the video, appeared to be her husband.

Some people who responded to the video found her approach to the situation slightly problematic, though:

1) It might have helped if she tried asking him for the seat nicely:

In fairness, we don't know if she did ask the passenger if he would give up his seat to her, but commenters said taking a video of him and putting it online seems to be quite a counter-productive (not to mention ungracious) response to the situation.

Screenshot from comments on video

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2) Shaming a person in a video online may also not be setting the best of examples in parenting:

3) Any able person can and should give up their seats to a passenger in need, not just those in a "reserved" seat.

Priority seats, some argue, put the onus on a select few (those occupying those specific seats) to give up their seats to people in need — when in honesty, anyone sitting anywhere in the train can and should exercise the same courtesy.

Unfortunately, we might have some way to go before that can become a reality.

Top image screenshot from video.