A man who goes by the username @wanyusri16 on Twitter has angered netizens due to his controversial Twitter thread.
According to his Twitter bio, his full name, which is written in Arabic, is Wan Abdullah Yusri.
He lives in Pahang, Malaysia.
"Men will eat first, women will be on standby"
On Oct. 8, Wan tweeted this:
Bila makan di rumah Ayah Long. Ada peraturan yang mana lelaki mesti suka.— وان عبدالله يسري (@wanyusri16) October 8, 2020
1. Air basuh tangan kena ada
2. Lelaki makan dulu, wanita standby tengok apa tak cukup.
3. Apa yg tak cukup, wanita yg cukupkan.
4. Sudah makan, laki tak dibenarkan angkat pingga ke sinki atau cuci. pic.twitter.com/XTkWdicnOq
Here's a translation of his tweet:
"When eating at Ayah Long (eldest uncle)'s house, there are rules that men would love.
- A hand washing bowl must be present at the table.
- The men will eat first, women will be on standby to see what's not enough.
- Women will refill a dish/drink when needed.
- Men aren't allowed to take their plates away and men must not wash the dishes."
"Cooking, serving and cleaning are women's jobs"
In the subsequent tweets under Wan's Twitter thread, he wrote:
"My aunt has scolded me many times for washing the dishes after I've finished eating. She told me that men's job is to eat. Cooking, serving and cleaning are women's jobs. Looks like we are discriminating women, right? But this is the tradition in the olden days.
Before I've even finished eating and drinking, my aunt will be ready to refill my rice and drink. She watches the men carefully while they eat. When the men are done, the women can finally eat. That's what I've observed."
Tak sempat nasi dalam pinggan habis, air dalam gelas habis, Enda akan standby dah siap-siap ceduk nasi dan nak tuang air dlm gelas. Memang teliti dia tengok laki tengah makan.— وان عبدالله يسري (@wanyusri16) October 8, 2020
Sesudah lelaki siap makan, baru wanita akan makan dan membawang sesama sendiri. Itu yg aku perhati 😂
Misogynistic and sexist
Wan's Twitter thread has gone viral, garnering over 3,500 retweets and 26,900 comments.
Most netizens were angered by his tweets, stating that the men in his family are misogynistic and sexist.
praying so that all women won’t be married into this kind of household and won’t encounter with these kind of misogynistic men. women aren’t y’all sexist bastards’ slaves. and we will never be. https://t.co/ot2HESBdbw— moonchild⁷ (@eleezarocket) October 8, 2020
toxic masculinity had been cultured throughtout times in our societies. just because you were born as male, that doesn't make you as privilege. guys washing dishes and cooking or crying isn't a sign of weakness. its because of societal blockage that forbid guys to be authentic https://t.co/ZoQKC44xIx— Nion (@verneofhaida) October 8, 2020
women are not ✨slaves✨ https://t.co/HIwL16mv03— shahzreen iman (@shhzrn) October 8, 2020
On the other hand, a few didn't see anything wrong with Wan's tweets, explaining that Wan's uncle came from a different era with older traditions.
His ayah long is an old man from a different era. Where men were breadwinners and women were caretakers... nak disagree then go ahead. But nak maki seorang yang to most of us pangkat atok is a tad much. Be disappointed with yourselves, cakap modern tapi adab lupa. https://t.co/8WoRD7OiYW— Quarantined ELMO (@Fiq21) October 9, 2020
"His Ayah Long is an old man from a different era. Where men were breadwinners and women were caretakers...if you want to disagree, go ahead. But to curse and insult a man who is older than you is a tad much. Be disappointed with yourselves, you say you're modern but how can you forget our traditions?"
kenapa ada triggered? dia ceritakan side adat keluarga dia ja.— Haziq Mahmur 🇲🇾🇵🇸 (@Haziqmahmur9) October 8, 2020
sewaktu feminis melaungkan emansipasi wanita hingga menjual tubuh itu kamu panggil 'own your body',
tapi bila ada yg memilih duduk di rumah, melayan anak suami, kamu memanggil ini sebagai perhambaan?
keep going bro https://t.co/0z38qrmpqb
"Why are some people triggered? He's just sharing his family's tradition.
When feminists proclaimed the emancipation of women, causing some of them to sell their bodies, you tell them, 'own your body'. But if someone chooses to sit at home and serve their husband and children, you call it slavery?
Keep going bro."
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