Returning to a damaged car at the car park is probably a nightmare for many drivers.
Like any other drivers, Kiss 92.0 DJ Maddy Barber was "about to get mad" when she saw that her BMW's wing mirror had broken off at Seng Poh Road on Oct. 2, 2020.
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Someone accidentally clipped my wing mirror while I was parked along Seng Poh rd today and I was about to get mad when I found an apology note stuffed inside my broken mirror with a contact no. How to be angry like that? It actually warmed my ❤️ and I’m just wondering... should I even bother calling for compensation or just forget about it? 😅 IGS poll, now!
Truck driver left an apologetic note behind after hitting her car
But the person who accidentally broke the wing mirror left an apologetic note written in Mandarin.
This note made her feel better, and made her wonder if she should reach out to him to ask for compensation.
The note was left behind by one driver named Wang Yao Wen, it says:
"Wang Yao Wen, driver
I accidentally hit your car, I'm sorry.
This is my number..."
Truck driver waited for her, wants to compensate her despite having financial difficulties
A day later, Barber updated that she reached out to Wang eventually.
She found out that he's a truck driver who just came from China. Wang also admitted he has to support his family and is new to the job.
Speaking to the Chinese evening newspaper, Lianhe Wanbao, Barber said that when the call got through, Wang immediately asked if she's still at Seng Poh Road and he would rush down to meet her.
She also understands that Wang had waited for her in the rain that day for an hour and left a note behind afterward.
Wang's honesty and sincerity moved Barber. When she told him that he does not have to pay for the damages, Wang "sounded shocked and even cried at one point".
Willingness to take responsibility goes a long way
Barber said that even from her personal experiences, she's met drivers who were willing to forgive her after she apologised and offered to pay them for accidentally damaging their cars.
These experiences, including the one with Wang, show that "the willingness to take ownership and rectify a mistake of yours go a very long way with people".
Here's the full post:
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For those of you who have been following the saga of my broken wing mirror online and on-air, thank you for being so vested in the outcome. I took in all your advice and called him soon after, so I didn’t leave him hanging. He doesn't speak English so I can't put him on air @Kiss92fm as much as I would’ve liked to. Mr. Wang is a truck driver from mainland China and was most distraught when this accident happened so early into a new job - one that he really needs to support his family back home. When I told him that it was OK and he need not bear my repair cost, he sounded shocked and even cried at one point. Having encountered one too many people who do not take ownership of their mistakes, I was deeply touched by his honesty and willingness to take full responsibility for it even if that meant taking on a financial burden that could break him. The moral of the story is NOT that I have a big heart, (which I do) 😜 because you can have a big heart and still seek compensation in such situations. I just did what felt right to me in this instance and there really isn’t a right or wrong here, simply a reminder that your approach to life, people, and problems can turn the tides for or against you. Believe it or not, I have on 2 separate occasions absentmindedly reversed into cars (spread out over a decade hor!). Both times the Singaporean male drivers came out huffing and puffing ready to tell me off, but when I started apologizing profusely (I really felt terrible) and offered to pay for the damages, their anger immediately dissipated and told me it was OK. Twice that happened! So, take it from me, the willingness to take ownership and rectify a mistake of yours go a very long way with people. If you think it’s about the car I drive, how much money I make, the repair cost or the fact that he’s not Singaporean - you’ve completely missed the point! 🙃
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