S'pore woman, 32, turns to TikTok to find husband after spending S$1,000 on dating apps

One woman in Singapore believes she has "swiped to the end of the stacks" on dating apps and is now asking TikTok to find her a husband instead.

32-year-old Dionis Liaw laid out her case in a video posted under the handle @dionislovespink.

"I have officially run out of men in Singapore on dating apps"

In the video, Liaw said she had been actively dating since March.

In her search for the 'one', she has paid for premium subscriptions on a multitude of dating applications like Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, Bumble, Facebook Dating and Matchcatch, spending over S$1,000.

"I have officially run out of men in Singapore on dating apps," she lamented.

She added: "I'm outsourcing my husband's search to TikTok now. TikTok, you find me one then."

@dionislovespink I spent $1,000+ on dating app premium, swiped to the end of the stacks… so fine, TikTok you find me one then 😭😂 I literally only need ONE. If you’re genuinely single, marriage-minded, want kids and think we might actually be compatible — form is in my bio 💀 If not, send this to your suspiciously eligible single friend pls 😂 #DatingInSingapore #SingaporeTikTok #FindMeAHusband #DatingApps #dionislovespink ♬ original sound - Dionislovespink - Dionis 🐈‍⬛🐈💕

Frustration and challenges

Although her decision to film a TikTok video was spontaneous, she said that the "frustration... had been building for months".

She explained that the challenge with dating apps was not a "shortage of people", but finding someone whose life goals and lifestyle aligned with hers.

She said:

"You can match because you find each other attractive and have chemistry, then only later discover that one person doesn't want children, doesn't want marriage, has a completely different communication style or sees relationships very differently."

She emphasised that she is "quite intentional about dating", and said she would rather ascertain if there is compatibility early on, as opposed to "spending months dating someone only to discover that we want completely different futures".

As such, since her "dating app judgement had clearly failed [her]", Liaw has resorted to creating a matchmaking form.

"The execution is a bit ridiculous, but the intention is real," she quipped.

She explained: "No, I'm not choosing a husband on this Jotform, I'm just literally deciding who might be worth one date."

What she is looking for

Liaw described herself as 32, separated, and with no kids.

She is dating to marry and hopes to have two children.

"I know quite clearly what I’m looking for," she told Mothership.

In a partner, she is looking for someone who wants marriage and kids, is financially stable with a "provider mindset, drive, doesn't smoke and likes cats".

She also said she would like someone who "preferably knows how to communicate like a functioning adult".

The form includes about 20 questions, covering basic details, and applicants' thoughts on marriage, kids, and their communication style.

Some of the questions include whether a man is okay dating a separated woman whose divorce is not yet final, when they would ideally want to get married, how they feel about having two children, and how they feel about cats.

The form notes that submissions are private, and that submitting does not guarantee a reply or a date.

79 submissions and counting

Speaking to Mothership, Liaw said she has received about 79 submissions so far, 65 through the original Jotform and another 14 through a newer Tally form.

She said the submissions have been mixed — a number appear to be genuinely serious, while some appear to have been submitted as a joke.

"Some of the answers have made me laugh and some people have taken the application much more seriously than I expected."

"Send this to your suspiciously eligible single friend"

She is still screening potential suitors with a careful eye though.

Liaw reiterated that does not want to meet someone just because they filled in the form, and that there has to be enough compatibility for her to genuinely want to know them.

In her video, she ended off on this note: "TikTok, please find me what S$1,000 worth of dating app premium couldn't."

The video has since passed 125,000 views, far more than she expected.

And her efforts beyond the apps appear to have worked somewhat — Liaw told Mothership she has spoken to several respondents.

In fact, she has a first date lined up already.