Batam woman allegedly harasses over 40 S’poreans for over a year, threatens baby with black magic in hunt for ex-lover

On Jun. 17, 2025, we received two strange emails in our inbox.

They were from a woman, purportedly from Batam.

She claimed she was looking for a Singaporean man, "Tony", who had abandoned her after getting her pregnant and forcing her to get an abortion.

It was sad, of course, but the claims were not substantiated by much evidence. For one reason or another, we didn’t follow up on the story.

Little did we know that all across Singapore, multiple individuals were being subject to different iterations of this story.

Some were measured pleas for help, like the message we received.

But others were more disturbing.

Daily harassment

This year, a number of content creators took to social media to describe what appeared to be quite an astounding level of abuse by this so-called victim.

But this was just the tip of a rather puzzling iceberg.

Since June 2025, more than 40 Singapore residents — and these are just the ones we are aware of — said they have been haunted by the same woman, who allegedly messaged them, individually, every single day.

Victims claimed she sent repeated emails and entered livestreams hosted by content creators to harass them through the comments section.

Even after they blocked her, she’d apparently create spam accounts to continue contacting and harassing them.

In some cases, she would allegedly impersonate her victims online, pretending to be them in order to contact others and pressure them into complying with her demands (i.e. to reveal more information about her Singaporean ex-lover).

In other cases, her harassment would escalate into death threats.

Black magic threats

One Facebook user, Lim, went online on Apr. 2 to claim that the Batam woman had misused her photos to impersonate her online and contact people within her social circle.

The woman allegedly accused Lim of “hiding” her missing Singaporean lover, and went on to threaten her baby.

She even claimed she would use black magic to curse her child, Lim wrote in the post.

To this day, Lim doesn’t know why or how the woman got her number, or why she believes Lim is in cahoots with her ex-lover.

“I do not know her, and I do not know the person she is looking for,” Lim clarified in her Facebook post.

Who is she?

All victims were left asking the same questions: Why were they being harassed, what did the woman want, and to what extent would she go?

And perhaps most importantly, who is she?

When it first started

We traced the earliest public account of this mass harassment back to a local social media influencer.

In a social media post on Apr. 1, Emma (not her real name) described the harassment she had been facing since Jun. 3, 2025.

According to Emma, the woman repeatedly messaged her and commented on her posts, asking to be put in touch with her best friend, Nadia (not her real name).

She alleged that the woman created at least 30 fake social media accounts across TikTok and Instagram to contact her, and even harassed her on Telegram.

In screenshots seen by Mothership, the harasser threatened to kill Emma and her dog.

She also disrupted her Registry of Marriages (ROM) ceremony, by allegedly tracking down her fiancé and repeatedly contacting him during the event.

When she failed to receive a reply from Emma or her fiancé, the harasser escalated matters by emailing her company on Jun. 13, in an attempt to locate both Emma and Nadia.

Emma maintained that she does not have any information about the woman’s missing lover. She also has not replied to the woman’s messages to date.

Others also harassed

A hallmark of the harassment is its almost pyramid-like scheme.

Nadia, Emma’ best friend, was among the first few people to be targeted.

Since June 2025, the 28-year-old said she had received countless direct messages from the woman.

The woman then went on to contact not just direct acquaintances, but also “friends of friends of friends” — a web of victims which included Emma.

In a police report seen by Mothership, Nadia alleged that the woman created at least five fake social media accounts a day to harass her, while also impersonating both her and her friends online.

When asked by Mothership how many people she believed had been affected so far, Nadia said it was “impossible to count”.

Businesses, organisations targeted

Apart from individuals, the woman also contacted businesses and organisations in attempts to find the person she was looking for.

According to Emma, the woman contacted a fitness studio via Instagram in an attempt to locate her and Nadia, whom she firmly believed were hiding her “missing lover”.

As the studio’s account was publicly accessible, the woman allegedly went on to contact the studio’s followers as well.

Emma added that a Singapore-based clothing brand was also targeted with spam calls and messages via platforms such as WhatsApp and Telegram.

Speaking to Mothership, the owner of the affected brand confirmed that her staff had been "receiving repeated and distressing messages from this individual for some time".

The messages included harassment, unsolicited obscene photos and videos, and repeated requests for the brand to help locate her lover, "Tony Toong".

Some of the photos sent to staff showed male genitalia, accompanied by claims that they "liked d***" and were therefore hiding Tony.

Mothership also listened to voice recordings allegedly sent by the harasser, in which she could be heard crying and appealing for help to locate Tony, and accusing them of hiding him or having a relationship with him.

Threatened to harm children

The owner added that the situation became "especially frightening" after she received photos of her children alongside messages that made her fear for their safety.

In a screenshot seen by Mothership, the harasser sent the owner a photo of a news report about a missing child, accompanied by the message: "Maybe your child will die like that or missing."

In another screenshot, the harasser threatened to harm another woman's baby if the owner did not take action.

"By that point, the matter had gone far beyond something we could simply ignore, so we lodged a police report in May 2026," she said.

Brand’s customers also targeted

The owner also told Mothership that the woman even began contacting her brand's customers.

She explained that the brand had a Telegram channel, intended to communicate with customers.

But the woman apparently tracked down customers' Telegram accounts via the group and began harassing them as well.

"I felt terrible that people who had simply joined our brand community were affected by something that had nothing to do with them," she said.

The owner said the most recent contact from the individual was on Jul. 16.

Despite her having repeatedly blocked the woman, the latter allegedly continued to create new Telegram accounts to continue to contact the business and its customers, making it difficult to stop the unwanted messages.

The owner added:

"I would also like to make it very clear that neither I nor anyone from [the clothing brand] knows Tony Toong.

We have no personal or business relationship with him, and we are not in a position to locate him or help resolve whatever issue exists between them.

It has been extremely upsetting to see my staff, my children, and our customers pulled into a situation in which we have no involvement."

What does the woman want?

There is a somewhat coherent story behind this perplexing harassment campaign.

While the woman never formally identified herself to us, police reports lodged by both Emma and Nadia, seen by Mothership, identified the harasser as Indonesian citizen Lilis Suryani.

Lilis apparently met Singaporean Toong Jian Heng, also known as Tony, at a Batam KTV outlet that he reportedly frequented in 2025.

This is according to Nadia, who is a former acquaintance of Tony (but who is no longer in contact with him now).

Discussed a meeting in Singapore

So what exactly was the relationship between the two?

In her initial emails to Mothership on Jun. 25, 2025, "Lilis" attached a few screenshots of messages.

They purportedly show the pair discussing the pregnancy and plans to meet in Singapore.

“Lilis” would seek assurances from “Tony” that he would not disappear after she arrived in Singapore, while questioning why he did not want to call her or meet her in Batam.

But he allegedly continued to urge her to travel to Singapore instead.

In one message, Tony asked: “So u want abort or give birth”, later telling her: “Come sg abort”.

Mothership could not independently verify the authenticity of the messages.

Lilis’ account of what happened

A year later, on Apr. 15, 2026, we received another email.

It appeared to be from "Lilis" and contained another plea for help to find Tony.

This time, she provided some more backstory on her relationship.

According to the email, her ill-fated love story dates back to Sep. 29, 2024.

She claimed she had been in a relationship with Tony, whom she "trusted and loved".

However, in March 2025, after finding out she was pregnant, she alleged that Tony subjected her to "psychological pressure and financial manipulation".

This led her to undergo an illegal abortion, she said.

Lasting trauma

“Lilis” claimed that the abortion endangered her life and left her with lasting emotional trauma.

She said that Tony cut off all communication after the procedure, leaving her to cope with the physical pain and grief alone.

In the screenshot attached to the email, “Lilis” received text messages from “Tony” telling her that "the world would be better off without" her and urging her to take her own life.

What does she want?

So what does she want?

From her latest email to Mothership, she appears to be seeking "safety and accountability" for what she described as exploitation and harassment by Tony.

In her final statement, she described herself as "a girl, and a human being whose life has been treated as disposable and unfair".

She added that she hoped the authorities would show that "the law is stronger than those who use fear to hide their crimes" and pleaded not to be silenced.

In the same email, she attached a photo of male genitalia, which she also sent to some of her other victims.

Mothership’s attempts to follow up with her were unsuccessful.

She has not responded to any queries as of the time of publication.

Who is Tony?

So now we know who Lilis is.

The next question is: Who is Tony?

Not every lead Lilis pursued turned out to be a dead end. Though many of the people she contacted had no apparent connection to Tony, some actually did.

Like Nadia, who told Mothership that she was acquainted with Tony through her husband, John (not his real name).

According to Nadia, John first met Tony through a friend from polytechnic. She also met Tony once or twice at social gatherings years ago, but they exchanged only a few words.

When asked what she knew about the couple, Nadia said she understood that Lilis had become pregnant by Tony, but later suffered a miscarriage.

According to Nadia, Tony initially provided financial and medical support after the miscarriage.

But he eventually stopped responding to Lilis, who has since been trying to locate him.

The search for Tony

This brings us to what we know today.

Apart from the harassment, online checks by Mothership found multiple social media accounts featuring photos of Tony.

The social media accounts adopted different personas and identities in their posts, giving varying accounts of how they “knew” Tony.

But they appear to be yet another attempt to track him down.

This is consistent with the pattern of impersonation that the harasser has been accused of.

Indonesians are also affected

The harassment apparently extends to Indonesia as well.

Batam-based news outlet Batamnews had earlier reported on the alleged harassment of various Indonesians.

In response to Mothership’s queries, Batamnews’s CEO shed some light on their investigations.

One of the victims, he explained, was an Indonesian woman living in Batam. She gave her name as Lia.

Lia said she’d initially tried to help Lilis after the latter went to her claiming that she was pregnant and searching for her lover to “take responsibility”.

As Lia used to work at a KTV outlet in Batam with Tony and followed him on Instagram, she initially responded to Lilis' Instagram messages in March 2025.

But Lilis' requests became increasingly unreasonable, and she began to harass Lia’s acquaintances as well. Lia eventually decided to cut off contact.

According to Batamnews, Lia later became a victim of harassment herself after her personal photographs and phone number were circulated in WhatsApp and Facebook groups.

The posts allegedly falsely portrayed her as someone offering sexual services.

Batam Police currently investigating

Lia filed a police report on Feb. 27.

Batam authorities at the time reportedly determined that there was insufficient evidence to establish a criminal threat.

However, Batamnews told Mothership that the case has since progressed.

Following further submissions by the victims, the police have officially accepted the report and are now investigating the matter.

The Batam-based news outlet added that while it does not have an exact figure for the total number of victims, more Indonesians have continued to come forward claiming they were similarly harassed.

Obtained a response from the alleged harasser

Batamnews also managed to obtain a response from Lilis.

According to the outlet, Lilis said she was the victim of broken promises made by Tony, the Singaporean man she has been trying to locate.

She also claimed that Tony had gotten her pregnant, which she said motivated her actions.

So where is Tony now?

What we know is that sometime in April 2025, when the alleged harassment first began, Nadia's husband reached out to Tony for clarity.

Tony responded by sharing Lilis' passport details with Nadia and Emma, allowing them to identify her.

The pair also learnt that he had filed a police report against Lilis in Batam over the alleged harassment, sharing a screenshot of the report dated Aug. 12, 2025.

Tony also forwarded a screenshot to Emma as an update on the situation, sometime around September 2025.

It was, apparently, evidence that Lilis had been questioned by the police at one point, purportedly showing messages sent to Tony by his lawyers, with a photo of Lilis speaking to police officers at a police station.

That was the last Emma and Nadia heard of him.

Trying to find a resolution

To try to put an end to the harassment, Emma and Nadia went to the Singapore police on Jul. 7, 2025.

Emma also sought help from Singapore's Ministry of Foreign Affairs (MFA) in November 2025.

According to her, both the Singapore Police Force and MFA said that, as Lilis was based in Batam, the matter fell outside Singapore's jurisdiction.

She also sought assistance from the Singapore Council of Women's Organisations (SCWO) to block the spam TikTok accounts.

Despite these efforts, the harassment continued.

In December 2025, Emma contacted the Indonesian embassy for help.

The following month, in January 2026, she travelled to Batam with her husband and Nadia, where they met with Singapore consular officers.

In response to Mothership’s enquiries, Singapore Police Force said investigations are ongoing.

Tony goes missing

According to Emma and Nadia, Tony is the last piece in the puzzle involving possibly more than 100 people.

But they have been unable to contact him after their last message to him in September 2025, with Tony apparently falling off the radar entirely.

In an effort to locate him, Emma managed to trace the local cleaning company Tony previously worked at.

She reached out to company executives, but was told that Tony had since resigned — something which they believe is linked to the harassment.

“Even all his close friends are unaware of his whereabouts,” Nadia told Mothership.

Mothership also tried to reach Tony through the Singapore and Indonesian contact numbers provided by Emma and Nadia, but to no avail.

Tony a fugitive?

On Apr. 20, 2026, Mothership received an email from an anonymous reader alleging that Tony had been a fugitive for over a year.

The reader claimed that reports had been filed with the Batam police, who had allegedly issued three formal summonses for Tony.

They further alleged that Tony had yet to cooperate with the authorities or acknowledge his alleged personal and legal obligations.

The email claimed that certain individuals may have been helping to conceal his whereabouts. It also included a police report, which Mothership confirmed with the Singapore Police Force had been filed.

The emailer did not respond to follow-up emails by Mothership.

Mothership has reached out to Batam police for comment.

MPs were also involved

In March 2026, Emma sought help from her MP, Baey Yam Keng.

To her surprise, she found that Lilis had apparently beat her to it, having already reached out to Baey in an attempt to locate Tony.

This was according to a screenshot that Lilis had sent to Emma.

In response to Mothership’s enquiries, Baey confirmed that Emma had spoken to him about the matter, but there are challenges as Lilis is a resident of Batam.

He added that he had “received a few emails under different names and email addresses” from the harasser, but has since ignored and blocked them.

Emma told Mothership that her friend, another of Lilis’s victims, also recently spoke to Low Yen Ling during a Meet-the-People Session about the matter.

Mothership has reached out for more information.

Death threats continue

On Apr. 7, Lilis allegedly emailed Emma again, demanding two million rupiah (around S$170) in exchange for stopping the harassment.

The email was followed by further death threats and demands for money, leaving her feeling that the ordeal was far from over.

Emma did not respond to the attempt at blackmail.

Even at the time of writing, Nadia and Emma claimed the harassment had not stopped.

According to her, she and people within her social circle have continued to receive messages from the woman on a near-daily basis, as they have since June 2025.

For many of those caught up in what they believe to be an ongoing online vendetta, there appears to be little resolution in sight unless Tony is found.

For now, they can only hope that the Batam police's ongoing investigations will bring some answers and, ultimately, an end to the ordeal.